Just when you think you and your parents are on the same page regarding the guest list, you discover that they actually intend to invite 50 more guests without telling you. These guest names will not appear on the guest list. And what are you going to do with all the children on the list? Won’t they waste your food and your drinks, and possibly break some expensive glassware in the process? Well, as discussed last week, the only way to handle family is to make sure your parents are on your side, and to explain your vision to them, together with the implications that come with inviting more guests. This has to be done before you even start on a guest list. So what else can you do?
“STRICTLY BY INVITATION; REGRET, NO CHILDREN ALLOWED”
Times have changed, and it is acceptable to put the above clauses on your wedding invitation. This means that you and your parents need to stick within the agreed upon numbers, and that anyone who is invited verbally without your knowledge, should not be allowed into your venue. Your immediate families need to understand that inviting guests behind your back could lead to embarrassment on the wedding day.
When it comes to children, some venues will actually advise you that they do not allow children in, for safety reasons. Other venues are very child friendly and will even offer you a kiddie’s entertainment area and a special menu for them. Weddings have become quite pricey, and should you choose to invite children, remember that they require seating, food, drinks and entertainment. Plus, weddings often go on until 10pm – these evening events are not ideal for children. The choice is yours, but cutting down on children will help you to control that guest list. Of course this is with the exception of the few that are part of your bridal team and your immediate family.
DO NOT CARRY A STASH OF BLANK INVITATION CARDS AROUND IN YOUR POCKET
Really? Does anyone actually do that? Yes they do. This stash of blank invitations is normally carried around just in case you meet someone that you deliberately left off the guest list. You were hoping you wouldn’t bump in to them, but now that you have, out comes the blank invite, which you fill in right in front of this person, because they just told you they heard that you are getting married next month. 80 invitations later (because the bride, groom and parents have all been carrying a stash around), your guest count has increased – you now need 10 more tables, and 100 more chiavari chairs, and 10 more of those “out of this world” centrepieces, more food, more drinks, and the list goes on.
PRINT THE CORRECT NUMBER OF INVITATIONS
Remember this when you do your guest list count. Writing “Mr and Mrs Mushonga and family” on one invitation, does not equate to inviting one guest! If you print 300 invites when you are expecting 300 guests, you will find yourself with a guest list of 600 or more guests.
HAVE A DESTINATION WEDDING
I dare you to have a destination wedding. That will do the trick!
Written by Ms Rufaro Mushonga, and originally published in The Standard Style Magazine